Zawaya

The marriage within the Sharia is not a form of ignorance ; in the contrary, it’s a form of civilization since it’s well defined and governed by law, and since the contract may be verbal and made in the presence of witnesses.

Peace be upon you: With all due respects I would like to say a word. You are the selfish ones and have appointed yourselves to represent women in your societies and talked and talked and are still talking about marriage. And you have all agreed that man is a social scourge if he dares say that he to marry someone else. You trapped him … And cornered him and pressured him and alienated him … until he ended up in the wrong path, the one that you pretended you were protecting him from, as well as the whole community, including children. However, your behavior increased adultery and out-of-wedlock births- and if these were avoided, thanks to men’s will, you accused him of looking at women illicitly, various mental illness due to repression, the so-called masturbation and sexual deviation and… drugs and all other vices. Men are not the only victims of your behavior but women themselves are victim of mental illness and difficult problems, which no solutions and no one to solve them- from lesbianism to suicide to spinsterhood to infertility due to hopelessness from becoming mothers. … etc..

You have no problem with statistics but fear the second wife despite her benefits throughout the ages and in all societies of different religions. You pretend to love women and harmony and coherence and productivity in society. The second wife is an important element in the development of society, so why fight her with all your might and money. Her presence at home relieves the first wife by sharing with her all duties through good cooperation and provide the best family atmosphere. She also reduces the chances of men seeking divorce and developing aversion toward their first wives. She is the missing link in the chain of development of society and its balance and stability at low cost. I do not see in all that has been written against the second wife and hating her but the following:
- You want to spread adultery and immorality in society.
- Establish devious behavior and “excessive motherhood” – or so to speak -.
- Encourage prostitution in streets and various clubs and public places starting from the Universities and their surroundings.
- Increase the spread of drugs and AIDS and others.
- Spread of murder and blood in the community

According to Islamic law, the marriage requires the presence of two witnesses, the agreements of the guardian, of the wife and of the husband, a dowry and the publicity of the marriage. The rules imposed by substantive law have nothing to do with Islam.